When death happens out of sync with the circle of life, a strange type of time mapping begins – at least it did for me. It started with identifying current time in hours since Kalei’s death, rather than the actual clock time itself. It was not 6:00 o’clock or 10:00 o’clock; it was 10 hours since she died and then 14 hours since she died and so on. Far too soon, I had to acknowledge the word ‘day’ in my new time perspective……
One of the things grieving Mom’s tell me about is the discomfort they encounter when trying to introduce the name of their scary sick, terminally ill or dead child into a conversation. To a person, they cite tears as the main contributing factor. Nine times out of ten; no matter how hard both parties try and hold their emotions in check, as soon as that child’s name is spoken the waterworks start. When that happens, regardless of who is doing the crying, both parties instinctively…..